Saturday, January 12, 2008

The ABCs of Fostering, Supporting and Nurturing Vocations within the Home

Ahhh, vocations! We need more, we pray for them, we talk about it. Here are some great ideas I found to help support & nurture vocations.
Other posts on this subject: Creating a Culture of Vocations and White Collar Jobs.

  • Answer your children’s questions about priesthood or religious life; never discouraging them or ridiculing them if they bring it up.

    Ask your child to identify a talent which he or she has; imagine together what work or ministry God might want someone to do with that type of talent. Also talk about what good things can be done with the talent right now. For instance, singing talent could be used to sing a baby brother or sister to sleep. Talent at soccer could be used to help someone on the team who needs extra practice.

    Bring your family to the next ordination mass or prayer vigil for religious.

    Challenge teens and young adults to consider a Church-related vocation. Tell them about the gifts in ministry you see in them. Encourage them to participate in at least one special vocation event (ordination, vocation retreat, discernment group).

    Cultivate an attitude of service by responding as a family to the needs of others. Seek out those in need and find ways to care for them.

    Discuss your own vocation to family life, explaining that God calls some people to priesthood or religious life, some to marriage, and some to life as single laypeople. You can talk about vocations firsthand!

    Encourage your children to be involved in the liturgical life of the parish as servers, lectors, musicians, etc. (and see to it that they get there on time).

    Explore the feelings you might experience should one of your children choose to give his or her life to Church ministry and discuss with your spouse your feelings and reactions if one of your children should decide to become a priest or nun.

    Find opportunities to affirm the gifts and talents of your children, and help them relate their gifts to various career and life choices (including priesthood and religious life).

    Guide your junior high child to pray that he or she might discover and use the gifts God has given.

    Have a priest come and bless your home

    Have your younger children make a cross to hang in each bedroom in your home.

    Include the diocesan vocation prayer in your personal and family prayer especially on Fridays.

    Invite a priest, brother or sister to dinner or to an outing with your family.

    Join together in prayer as a family; include a short vocations prayer when you pray before meals (especially on Friday).

    Keep an eye open for TV shows and movies that present Gospel-centered role models. Watch them with your children and engage in a discussion.

    Let your children see their Baptism pictures. Have the children make and send a card or note to the priest who baptized them promising him they will pray for him.

    Let your children notice an attitude of openness to God’s will in you.

    Make time for teenagers in your life; your children and their friends, nieces and nephews, babysitters, etc.

    Name the gifts of each family member on their birthday. Express gratitude for these gifts.

    On the date of your child’s baptism, talk about the life of the saint for whom the child is named (or the saint’s day it is). There is plenty of information about the background of saints on the Internet. The saints are people from all walks of life who tried to make a positive difference in the world—a goal as real today as it was for the saints.

    Pray for the seminarians of the diocese by name; you may want to “spiritually adopt” one of them.

    Quiz your children and discuss with them stories of calls in Scripture (e.g. Mary’s response to God in Luke 1:26-39, Jesus’ calling the Apostles in Mt 4:18-22, etc.).

    Remember in prayer by name those who minister to your family and include in your family prayers petitions for those called to priesthood and consecrated life.

    Set aside a “family time” each week for kids to talk about what is happening in their lives. Let them share about their day.

    Share the story of your own vocational choice with your children. Celebrate the occasion of your wedding anniversary as you share the story of your vocation to married life.

    Support and participate in any school or parish vocation activities.

    Talk about your family’s ethnic or cultural heritage at supper, while driving in the car, or at some other time when family members are all together. Pass along memories of cultural aspects of holiday and other celebrations that you remember.

    Talk positively and enthusiastically about the priests, sisters, brothers, deacons in your parish and share with your children the stories of the priests or sisters who have inspired you and how (e.g. priest at your wedding, or baptized your children, priests or religious from school, etc.).

    Tell your children why you chose your particular profession. Who helped you form your decision?

    Use books and videos to familiarize your children with saints who are priests or vowed religious. Use these lives of the saints as a springboard for discussion on these lifestyles.

    Utilize opportunities to share your vocation as parents; what you value, how you came to that decision, and the importance of faith in your life.

    Vacation - invite someone to vacation in your home. H/T to La Dolce Vita for this wonderful idea! She says, "This past summer we had a sister from Tanzania come stay with us for 10 days, and her visit was such a blessing on so many levels (my sons just adored her!). She is now studying in New Jersey, and we hope to have her back again this summer."

  • Visit Churches and Shrines while on vacation and offer prayers together as a family.

  • Witness to your own vocation by telling stories about how you fell in love. Let the children see the love and care that parents have for each other.

    XYZ – the end of the alphabet, but certainly not the end of ways or ideas to foster vocations at home!

Family Vocations Prayer

Loving God, each member of our family is a special gift from you. You have given each of us gifts and talents so we may enjoy life, but also that we can share our blessings with others.

Generous men and women, boys and girls, are needed for service and leadership in our Church. Help us know how to encourage and support each other so we can respond courageously to this need and in doing so be people who do your will.

We know that you are with us each step of the way. Help us to trust in you and in each other. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Parents Prayer for Their Children

Loving Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, you have created my children special and unique and I give thanks and praise for them. Help me to guide them well and to pray for them deeply.

Open their hearts to your word that they may know the sound of your voice in a world filled with distractions. May they hear your call to live lives of Christian service. If you are calling my children to a life of Church ministry, my prayer is that your call will be steady and irresistible.

Grant me, too, a generous heart to open my arms one day to give them to your service. May your tender care keep my children safe, especially as they discern their vocations in life.

Loving God, what I ask for my children, I ask for all children: help them to know your presence at all times and to be open to the promptings of your Spirit who is one with you and your Son now and forever. Amen.

H/T Diocese of Grand Rapids


Bia said...

I am a new visitor, and I really like your blog. I'm commenting on this post in particular because praying for vocations is near and dear to my heart. Another way to foster vocations, to go along with having a priest,etc. over for dinner, is have one vacation in your home. This past summer we had a sister from Tanzania come stay with us for 10 days, and her visit was such a blessing on so many levels (my sons just adored her!). She is now studying in New Jersey, and we hope to have her back again this summer. Thanks for visiting. God bless!

Soutenus said...

That is a wonderful addition to the list.
During a break I am going to try to add it to the post!

I am happy to have discovered your blog, too! I loved your post about calling your toddler and his response, "I'm not doing ANYTHING!" The picture was precious!

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